Originally posted on 3 March 2011.
This idea has been haunting me for some time now. (If you are not yet aware of the link between my personal fight against depression and my love for Bruce’s music, do read about my journey at https://marilebetterdays.wordpress.com/these-are-better-days/ and https://marilebetterdays.wordpress.com/2011/01/31/out-of-the-badlands-into-the-promised-land/). I have started a diary about depression on my personal blog. (in Afrikaans my home language) afther having some success with my diary of a romance writer.
My first post has created so much reaction that I decided to give it a try in English, too. So I hope the Springsteen fans who have no interest in depression will forgive me for using this platform to reach those of us who are familiar with the havoc this terrible thing can run in a person’s life. (If nothing else, it can be a good excercise to hone my translation skills!) Hopefully my readers will not see it as let me show you how it must be done, but as travelling a road together and learning from one another. In this way it can be of great value for both writer and reader. I have been battling with the insistant feeling that I must do something for people fighting depression for some time .
The problem is that I really do not know where I will find the time. (But I also know that being busy can be very stimulating and invigorating – and that the busy person is usually the best one to ask to do something!) I would have loved to develop a course and present it for small groups. But that could be a completely new career. After much thought I have realised that there is no way in which I can do this AND still stay focused on my writing. (I am a writer of romantic fiction in my home language.)
Eventually my thoughts led me to the idea of an online course. But two months of 2011 have passed – and I still have no idea where to start! Which makes it time for serious action, because I do not want to be stuck with some unresolved resolutions – I have found that not achieving a goal (however small) is a sure way to pull yourself down into the mud …
Thus – my goal: To add a thought/chapter/idea to this diary-to-be each week. Let’s see how it goes. (And yes, I already suspect that I will learn more than the readers.)
In the two years since I wrote the above I have established a readership about depression in my home language and started an e-book on the topic. My original idea was to translate this in English, but eventually the idea of using Bruce’s work grew on me. There are just so many songs as well as so many aspects of his life which are relevant to a depression fighter’s situation.
Thanks to the unknown artist!
Not quite sure yet how I will go about it. But hopefully something positive will come out of this. Like something positive always comes out of listening to Springsteen music.
This article sums up beautifully the gift from Springsteen to all depression fighters – the gift of not hiding it any more:
Bruce Springsteen’s decision to take antidepressants was coloured by the fact that his father didn’t or wouldn’t. But it took a lot of psychotherapy for him to reach that point.
That is the stark admission we get from Bruce, the recent biography by Peter Ames Carlin. While the book wasn’t authorised per se, Springsteen gave Carlin countless interview hours, facilitated meetings with family and friends, and opened up his personal scrapbook to the author.
The fact that Springsteen has spoken openly about his chronic depression and other issues, and his use of medication to deal with those problems, has been welcomed by some in the fields of medicine and psychology as a breakthrough, given his popularity as a performer. It’s been quite a Continue reading
No, I am not talking about the book as such, although it is one of the best presents I have ever given myself.
But even better are the few paragraphs on pages 454 and 455, where Bruce speaks about his struggle with dark moods and depression. By speaking about it, he acknowledges the ongoing battle of so many depression fighters. So many of us are still ashamed of it and find it very hard to admit that we struggle. But here is this brilliant, rich and famous man – and he admits to being in therapy for many years, to being on antidepressants, to being unable to stay completely out of the claws of depression. Then surely the rest of us can do it, too?
“You go through periods of being good, then something Continue reading
Bruce fans, please allow me this one non-Bruce post!
Or maybe it is not a non-Bruce post, as it has a lot to do with changing your life if you are not satisfied with it.
And with perseverance and lots of hard word.
Things we all know are important parts of the Springsteen magic we all love.
So please allow me this little ode to my brave son:
Most of us often find it difficult to speak our mind, even without having a Continue reading
These photos show why he is such an inspiration to me. Willing to take chances. Trusting the hands beneath him. Living in the moment. Giving his all. Having fun. (And probably just being a stubborn Continue reading
It took me some time to grasp this idea – but once you really start thinking about it, it makes perfect sense:
Things from this article that caught my attention, are (among others) the following:
1. Teenage depression is escalating.
2. The same goes for teenage suicide.
3. Depressed teens feel they are not beautiful, rich or famous enough.
4. This happens because their self-esteem is strongly influenced by the image of the ideal life portrayed by the media.
5. Teens don’t have the insight to that know what you are and what you do are more Continue reading
This short article deals with a few possible causes of depression. The most notable (and shocking!) statement these experts make is that they do NOT consider depression to be an illness. Yes, I was also shocked and indignant at first, because it took my doctor years to get me to believe that it is an illness and that I cannot help having it. But this is really where my trouble started, because believing it is an illness turns you into a helpless victim. When I moved away from this status of victim, I could start to take control (during the good times) and concentrate on the things I can DO to reduce Continue reading
Here is the first of a series of links that changed my whole life. This first one gives a short list of possible (but not all) signs of depression. It is a short and easy article to read, even if you are a bit low on energy.
Maybe it could do the same for you!
And while you are working on it, immersing yourself in Springsteen’s lyrics Continue reading
Yes, we all know he is a very good-looking man. He surely has come a long way since that scrawny kid with too much facial hair and that terrible woollen cap started to do his thing. And of course he knows that appearances are important in show business. And to be honest, in the few seaside photos that I have seen, the muscles and the tan and the chain are a little bit too much for me. I tell myself these things just to make sure I am being objective here. Or as near to objective as possible.
Fact is that it still seems uncool to most men to look Continue reading
For many years I clung to my secret. My husband and my mother knew that I did nog always cope, and that was all. And only because it was impossible to keep it from them. I remember trying to explain to my husband. I will forever be thankful for his sincere efforts to understand. Years later he uttered these unforgettable words: “I believe in depression as I believe in God – I cannot see it, but I know it is there.” This shows me a man who really tries to Continue reading
For years I reluctantly took expensive medication and tried my best to cope with life. And this while I actually was quite aware of how valuable theraphy can be in a situation like mine. But while I hated taking the pills, the idea of being in therapy was worse for me. That was a good twenty years ago. I have come a long way since then. But I still suspect that people (in my country at least) still find it easier to take medication than to go for counselling. We live in a society where there is a pill for every pain, and we have been conditioned to expect Continue reading
The day when my doctor convinced me that depression really is a disease and not merely my own inability to cope, was an important event for me. I have a strong suspision that it is not only me who have often wondered if my depression was not merely a fault in my personality, a lack of selfdiscipline, unthankfulness or the lack of faith of a pathetic Christian. The diagnosis of depression as a real illness sets you free from (most of!) these stupid Continue reading
The idea for this has been haunting me for some time now. (If you are not yet aware of the link between my personal fight against depression and my love for Bruce’s music, do read about my own journey at https://marilebetterdays.wordpress.com/these-are-better-days/ and https://marilebetterdays.wordpress.com/2011/01/31/out-of-the-badlands-into-the-promised-land/). I have started a diary about depression on my personal blog. (in Afrikaans, my home language) after having some success with my diary of a romance writer. My first post has created so much reaction that I decided to Continue reading
This post was written about three years ago. I still feel the same. 🙂 And Bruce is of course now 64 and still going strong.
Because he was and still is one of the most attractive men I know about. And yes, of course you can do nothing about the body and face you are born with. But you most certainly can treasure it or ruin it. One can only look at other well known stars of his generation to realize the difference. Nobody can look like that at 61 without embracing a healthy life style. He really is an example for everybody growing older.
An no, the above is not the most important reason why I adore (= admire, love, etc. etc. etc.) Bruce Springsteen! It was just the first one to pop into my head when I thought of starting this series of posts. And remember that I am a romance writer – beautiful heroes are my business!